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Now, you can sign up to receive the Dialogue Question of the Day in your email box! Here's how:
1. Send an e-mail to listserv@wwme.org that has the following in the body of the message:
subscribe dq John & Mary Dialoguer
(Please use your own name in John & Mary's place)
2. Wait for a response from the listserv. When the response comes, reply to the message and put "ok" as the message body.
3. When listserv gets your reply, you will be added to the list and will get a confirmation message. |
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| Dialogue Guidelines |
| Dialogue is the time for experiencing our spouse's feelings.
Dialogue is meant to allow your spouse to share their feelings without being judged or analyzed. Dialogue is not a time to unload or blame. By following some simple guidelines and techniques, you can make the most out of your dialogue.
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Dialogue Do's |
Write - a 10 minute love letter focusing on feelings.
Exchange - and read twice, once for the head and once for the heart.
Dialogue - 10 minutes on the strongest feeling in one of the letters.
Select - a question for your next dialogue. |
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| Dialogue Don'ts: |
- Avoid getting hung up on grammar or spelling.
- This is not the time for "garbage dumping".
- Avoid giving "you" messages. Use I feel statements instead.
- Avoid blaming statements, i.e., "you made me..." or "you didn't...". Just concentrate on the feelings.
- Avoid measuring how much your spouse wrote.
- Avoid using critical judgements. The decision to love your spouse will keep you on track.
- Don't expecting your spouse to change because you shared your feelings.
- Don't short-changing the time in your room together by not spending the full time talking about and continuing to draw out/explore the feeling about which you have written.
- Avoid the temptation to problem-solve on the subject during the dialogue time, be sure to use the 10 minutes just to listen.
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